Hard limits
Too much vanilla sex is a common problem this week. And let’s talk about that gaslighting bar.
View ArticleDick monsters
Consent is consent no matter how wasted people are. Newlyweds have timing issues. And you can cut back on time spent with bigoted relations.
View ArticleRestless
Sexsomnia? It’s a thing. Private gay European sex dungeons? Also a thing. Read on.
View ArticleThe leftovers
Dan Savage offers a few orphan answers to orphan questions from the live taping of the Savage Lovecast at Revolution Hall in Portland, Oregon. What’s on tap? Who’s on top, lube, poop, afterglow and more.
View ArticleTraps and triggers
Getting past vanilla sex, a dog who likes to watch and a little erectile dysfunction. It’s all in a day’s work for Dan Savage.
View ArticleAnti-climax
This week in Savage Love, there’s problems in the vagina, problems with a secretly bi boyfriend and problems Viagra can’t solve.
View ArticleBreathless
No one can consent to being strangled to death by accident. It’s normal for the mind to wander during sex. And a comeuppance.
View ArticleLooking
This week, Dan offers a confused Grindr user a user’s manual, plus, a lesbian who’s also a fan of literature can’t find a literate GF.
View ArticleGet out
Is he not listening or are you not getting that he doesn’t care? Making compromises and making tough decisions like when it’s time to call it quits.
View ArticleVirgin territory
A 30-year-old virgin, a hostile sort and an off-putting sexual practice are under discussion this week. Dan Savage has words of comfort and wisdom.
View ArticleSneakers
She finally finds a guy she likes. But then she learns he’s in an open relationship with another woman. What’s a 34-year-old straight woman to do?
View ArticleThe Music Box
Another round of excerpts from a live taping of the Savage Lovecast, this time from Chicago’s Music Box Theatre. Questions run the gamut from pegging to incest porn.
View ArticleSacrifice
How should you feel about hotwife/cuckold fantasies? What about old flings? And then there’s that boyfriend who may only really want to cuddle with your cat.
View ArticleScrubs
A doctor with a medical fetish seeks a second opinion, a platonic Tinder kink relationship goes awry, and more.
View ArticleCome again
Should a freeloader have to put up with witnessing sub-dom behavior? Does a lack of orgasms bode ill for a new marriage? That and more in this week’s installment.
View ArticleCreepers
It’s safe to have expensive leather bondage equipment, Mom! That and other lessons in minding your own beeswax this week in Savage Love.
View ArticleCrossed dressers
Cross dressing quandaries, from a supposedly sick wife with lots of rules to a non-binary who still wants to be supported monetarily by the family, this week in Savage Love.
View ArticleCommit to something
Polyamory is a big commitment. Dan advises dialing it back. And a reader wants the Campsite Rule amended. Is that even something you can do?
View ArticleQuickies
In this week’s Savage Love, Dan takes on some shorter letters, which doesn’t mean the problems don’t loom large. On the roster: flaccidity, brother foursomes and living with a mate who voted Trump.
View ArticleDon’t Fuck Nazis
A father-and-child reunion, dangerous death-wish fantasies and having sex with a man who has alt-right sympathies.
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